Episode 96 – An awareness exercise to increase happiness & reduce stress

Podcast episode 96 from my podcast Being well with Lauren( link below)

Today we are going to do a fun exercise in awareness to help you feel happier every single day…Would you like to try that? Now this is a really simple exercise you can do at any time to help your mind learn to focus, deliberate, and essentially think more clearly …so it is really super useful and has a range of benefits. I ask you at the beginning of this episode to bring an item or a thing which gives you comfort. We use this for the awareness practice. And yes by practice I mean this is an exercise you repeat regularly. I recommend daily. The more you practice the better you get at it. And the more you practice the happier you get. Sound good doesn’t it? Now with your chosen item in your hand I want you to explore, enjoy, and immerse yourself in that item. Today I use a cup of tea( Because I just love tea and find it comforting). Throughout the episode today we notice our chosen item, we touch it, listen to it, look at it…possibly taste it. This exercise is all about really sitting in the present moment enjoying, appreciating, and focusing on what we have right in front of us. In this way we teach our minds to focus deliberately on what we have in this present moment rather than being distracted,  ruminating, over thinking or wandering away from the moment.   As we do bicep curls in order to increase our bicep strength, or we may run in order to increase our cardio fitness so we do happiness exercises in order to teach our brain to feel familiar with happiness.  In other words, we train our happiness muscle. So the feeling of happiness becomes more of a ‘go- to’ emotion for our brain rather than the emotions of anxiety or negative stress.   A trained brain is also more resilient and able to think more clearly which helps with problem solving and stress. So go and get yourself an item which brings you comfort and resonates with who you are and come back and sit down and let’s do a simple exercise to train our happiness muscle. Warm Regards Lauren aka the whispering mother

 

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Podcast Episode 95 of Being well with Lauren ‘Are you just being too nice?’

 

Hi everyone Lauren here… How have you been? I have a lovely cup of English Breakfast tea here and I am looking forward to having a nice chat with you. Today I respond to a business letter addressing self-esteem, negative self-talk,  internal dialogue, and maintaining a sense of self. Interspersed with these interesting topics we look at setting boundaries. Ah What a lovely mix! So seat yourself down -pour yourself a hot cuppa and  let’s get chatting.

Here is the letter I’m responding to… What would you say if you respond to this letter?

And…What would you say if I asked you to respond to this letter? Why don’t you respond below?

Well I’ve had some problems at work. I’ve started a new job and there’s some girls there who are talking bad about me and I usually don’t have low self esteem I usually feel pretty good about myself. But I’m starting to feel like a weakling, I feel like I can’t stand up for my self in a positive way. I feel like I’m losing my self in a sense like I’m just letting what those people say effect me in a bad way. I want to be strong like proud of myself and it’s not only them I feel like my friends even sometimes take advantage of me. I’m “too nice” I guess I should say so when I say I want to be my own hero I just want to know how to get my courage to say “No” or ” I don’t like that” I feel like I’ve lost my voice in what I want or don’t want in my life because I’m being too gentle and too nice. I would just like some motivation on how to stand up for myself, be positive, and strong like I think a hero would be. Kind of like a super hero. I hope I don’t sound crazy lol”

So ….what do you think? What would you say if you were this person’s confidante? Hmmmm

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Episode 94 Using a ‘reflections wheel’ to learn to feel happiness( From my podcast Being well with Lauren)

Hello there, Lauren here…How have you been? Are you well? Have you been exercising? Are you sleeping? Are you taking care of yourself?I do hope so…

…And now a question for you…How have you been reflecting? Yes that’s right…How have you been REFLECTING..in other words how have you been perceiving the experiences of your life? Because your ability to reflect is not only a skill but it helps determine your happiness. Yes that’s right HOW WE REFLECT HELPS US TO LEARN TO FEEL HAPPY.This is a really important topic……I have my cup of tea in already in hand …Go and get yourself a nice hot cuppa and let’s get going..But be warned you will need to Roll up your sleeves….and let’s do some work on our happiness practice…today for my podcast episode 94 I have my diary in hand and have taken some notes… we all want to feel happy and feel a sense of well being don’t we?…is that what you want? Do you want to feel good? Do you want to feel happy every day?  What do you want from your life? How do you want to feel? Reflections are really important…our cognitive ability to reflect determines how we learn to feel now in the present moment and leads us to how we will feel about the future. And one day you will want to look back on your life. I am not ancient I am only 51 but as my dear son says to me “Mum you have only lived half your life”…I wish! Bless him. Our mind is like a horse and we are the riders…we choose whether to use the reins or allow our horse to gallop wantonly without direction or guidance…Is your horse of life all galloping all over the place? We do choose our thoughts. We choose what thoughts to associate with an event in our life. We choose our feelings. We choose our values. And these choices help determine our journey of life.

The 'Reflections Wheel' I saw at my boys basketball practice
The ‘Reflections Wheel’ I saw at my boys basketball practice

In today’s podcast I talk about making yourself a ‘Reflections wheel‘ in order to help you learn how to feel happy.  I saw a ‘reflections wheel on the hall wall while I was watching my boys play basketball at a local school yesterday. It was a learning tool used by the school and displayed up on the wall to help children learn to feel more resilient, happier, and open to learning.  And I thought why don’t we do one today together during the podcast episode.  So today we discuss the Reflections wheel and how our way of reflecting upon our lives determines our ability to sit in the present and also shapes the person we become in the future.  I have really enjoy doing this episode.  I do hope you enjoy it as much as I do.  It is relevant to parenting, relationships, Career, and simply our sense of self.  Why don’t you create your own ‘reflections wheel’ and let me know about it? I would love to hear from you.

Warm regards Lauren  aka the Whispering mother

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